Postparty

The party last night was quite wonderful!  I was in such good humour and too distracted to really put my puppy through his paces, but he behaved very well :)  Even when he duzte he was a very good puppy, even to the point that someone commented that he really was just like a pup!  And very much later when he siezte, he did very well, even though we were both very tired and a little tipsy.  I'm so proud of my puppy!  And it was the nicest thing to wake up next to him and see the sunrise as I was nuzzled up against him.

So, I think his main hangup about power exchange is calling me "Sir" in front of his friends, which is understandable.  We won't have much chance to have any sex scenes for a while, but we'll definitely get to do a lot more pup and handler stuff, which is quite exciting :)  I'm gonna get him a collar and leash for when we go out, and a new chew toy :3  And I'm taking him to a costume tea party next week, so I'm thinking I'll have him be in puppy mode for that.  It'll be interesting.

Debut

Taking my puppy out to a party tonight and introducing him to my hometown friends.  It's going to be pretty fantastic!  This will also be an interesting experiment to see just what his power exchange limits are in social situations.

On a side note, despite its dangers, the strappado is a very elegant position.

Dorky am 3.04 Uhr

OMG er ist soooooooooooooooo süß!  Mein Hündchen ist das süßeste Hündchen!  (Ähs tut mi Leiiiiid, ob Du drüber kotzt :p)

Better than expected

I wrote my final German essay about puppy play. It was essentially a translation of part of last post, plus a bit of background. I was nervous about my instructor's reaction, but I got top marks and this comment:

"Es freut mich auch, dass du ganz offen darüber reden könntest. Ich finde es höchst interessant!"

"It makes me glad that you can talk about this very openly. I find it extremely interesting!"

Just wanted to brag. May post my essay later.

Siezen und duzen

FUCK!  Domming is such a trip!  Even just saying "Puppy will address Me as 'Sir' unless I tell him otherwise" is getting my heart racing.

In German, there are essentially two formality registers.  In formal situations, or when addressing someone of higher status, one uses the Sie-form, e.g., "Kommen Sie in, bitte," and addresses others as "Herr X" or "Frau Y."  (Incidentally, "Fräulein" is never used in Germany, and is considered offensive there.)  Using the Sie-form, or siezen, also implies a certain distance, so a superior might siezen a subordinate.  When on familiar terms, one uses the du-form (or online, the Du-form, a compromise between Sie and du), e.g., "Komm in," and addresses others by first name, or at least omits the Herr or Frau.  As I understand it, there was also once a third register, used by superiors addressing subordinates, of the form "Er komme in," where the person addressed is in the third person and the verb is in Konjunktiv I/a hortatory subjunctive.

In our power schema, there are three registers.  Well...three-plus-one registers.  Ordinarily, my pup siezt, i.e., he addresses me as Sir.  Further, he is to rise when I enter the room or rise, and always wait for permission to sit.  Unless told otherwise, when he sits, he sits on the floor or lies with his head on my leg.  When we walk, he follows closely or is led on a leash; when we go out, I order for him.  When I give him an order, he is to obey.
If I tell puppy, "duze, bitte," he can drop the "Sir" and doesn't need permission to sit.  When we're being more relaxed like this, I won't ever lead him on a leash, and I'm more inclined to let him order for himself, and I'll ask him to do things instead of telling him to.  But when I say "sieze!," he better snap back to top form!
It's always good to have time when you and your partner can be totally relaxed, no matter how fun it is to be in Dom- or subspace.  I tell my pup to be at ease when it's time to relax.  He doesn't have to stand on ceremony.  When we're around family, puppy can be at ease.  (Because seriously, how do you come out as kinky to your 1st gen. Italian-Australian Roman Catholic father?)

And then we come to the plus one.  I bought my puppy dog tags to wear (because I'm a huge dork like that), but when those come off and the collar goes on...well, puppy really gets to let his inner puppy out!  And he is such a sweet puppy, too.  And a very fast learner!  I'm already impressed.  We are going to have a lot of fun, I just know it!

Newbie Kinkster

OK, so sometimes I write in English, and sometimes I write in German.  English is my first language; German is actually my fourth.  Don't worry about the other two, I don't speak them, just read (and sometimes write) them.

I've known for a while that I have a lot of kinks.  I guess jocks in general are so typical they're not really a kink any more, but whatever.  That was the first.  Then military, then mechanics.  My ex-proto-boyfriend (figure that one out!) introduced me to spanking and very light bondage, and that really was the end of any semblance of vanillaness.  His "freaky boi" turned into a full blown pig.  I'm not going to list my fetishes and tendencies.  They'll be come apparent soon enough.  But let it suffice to say that I'm a gay, versatile top and a Dominant with occasional switch tendencies.  And by "Dominant," I mean that sensu lato, from merely dominant to master, to probably one of the most sadistic assholes you'll meet this side of a Lexan wall.

I'm just starting out, mostly learning as I go.  I'm refining my understanding of what I like, and how I like to do it.  There are a lot of things I haven't explored, and probably many more that I haven't even heard of.  I don't have many people I can talk to candidly about kink, so this is probably going to be where I work out all my thoughts.  And also where I boast, because I'm just that kind of person.

Not much in my inventory yet...tight black jeans with a button fly serve as my pants when I'm getting geared up, and my everyday boots are also my gear boots.  Though I gotta say, my boots are pretty badass.  My actual gear is currently limited to a pretty decent leather harness and a (how typical!) Soviet civilian gas mask.  I also have a couple nice toys from Oxballs, the Spike ass-lock and ball splitter (stretcher on 'roids).  Can I just say, the Spike is amazing.  When I put it on, I can hardly stand from the sensations.  After the holidays, I'm going to treat myself to a new pup tail (the one I had before is in the hands of an ex), new ropes (also left with said ex.  How silly of me), and a scalpel set.

Also, as of Monday, I am the very proud Sir of the cutest, sweetest, most intelligent pup in the world.  More to come on that, perhaps ;)